TOM Brady and Gisele Bundchen will struggle through the aftermath of their divorce because their personalities clash, a relationship expert has said.
And she claims that it’ll take a toll on both of them as they cope with it all in different ways.
“The differences between their two approaches is likely to make these early stages more difficult for them than for some couples, as they may struggle to communicate meaningfully,” explains Jo Hemmings.
“Tom is more likely to be in denial at this point, while Gisele will be more inclined to be angry.”
Tom and Gisele formally parted ways last Friday after 13 years of marriage following months of speculation surrounding Tom reneging on his retirement plans.
After a judge in Florida declared their marriage as dissolved and irretrievably broken, the pair began their new lives as co-parents, sharing joint custody of their son and daughter, Benjamin Rein, 12, and Vivian Lake, nine.
“I think Gisele was very committed to both her marriage and her family – as well as feeling like her stepson was ‘100% hers’ believing that scaling back her own career and welcoming her stepson into her marriage was a necessary part of that journey and one which was willing and happy to embrace, ” explains Jo.
“She’ll feel betrayed and concerned at how the children will be impacted and will need a lot of love, reassurance and support from close friends and family in the immediate future.
“Whereas Tom struggles to separate his work from his personal life, is highly ambitious and feels that he can detach, from his personal concerns, by working harder and more than ever.
“He has been finding solace in work and will continue to do so, probably not really processing his emotions at this stage.”
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The pair’s different approaches first came to light when they shared separate statements on their Instagram feeds after the divorce was made public.
“Tom’s statement was much briefer than Gisele’s,” says Jo.
“It felt more formal and formulaic, which may indicate that he’s not willing to share how he feels or is at that common stage of denial.
“Gisele’s statement is much more pointed and she talks of ‘our children’ and then says ‘I’ love them with all my heart.
“It feels like she is calling out Tom for not prioritizing their children enough, perhaps being more selfish in his behavior.
“She also generously wishes him well, while he has focused on them as a family and not expressed concern for Gisele’s future welfare.”
Otherwise, Gisele, 42 has since stayed quiet on the matter, with Tom revealing on Monday it’s all been “a very amicable situation.”
In his weekly podcast, Let’s Go, the Bucaneer Quarterback said that his focus was taking care of his children and winning football games.
“So that’s what professionals do,” he said.
“You focus at work when it’s time to work, and then when you come home you focus on the priorities that are at home.
“And all you can do is the best you can do, and that’s what I’ll just continue to do as long as I’m working, as long as I’m being a dad.”
“Being respectful to each other, however difficult and frustrating it may feel, is important, “ says Jo.
“Continuing the blame game will not help either one of them.”
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